There is always a dichotomy between what you think in your head and what you finally say. You are so eloquent as Shakespeare penning his plays while giving a thought life but when it's time to give birth to it, it comes out still born. This is more so in the case of introvets. Obviosuly its psychological. But is there a cure? Or are we (specially me) destined to suffered in silent misery due to this dichotomy and find people expressing ideas that could have been rightfully ours if expressed first/clearly?.
One meets many people during their brief stay on earth. And we usually have the habit of being fiersome critics on whatever its is possible holding an opinion on. So we judge a lot of people on what we think are their failed attempts at articulation, social behaviour and whatnot. Maybe it's this habit of ours in its corollary that is the cause of this dichotomy. I know its easy to come up with hypotheses. So here's my reasoning.
We spend a lot of time trying to formulate our thoughts that we forget to express it. And when we finally do, we are wary of the same crime we had committed on others, that of being fiersome critics. We do not want to make a failed attempt and be judged, that we seldom make attempts. When we finally do we are so self conscious that we stumble. This is where we fall into the cyclic trap of being conscious. Once we stumble, we become further conscious which leads to further stumbling. So jack goes tumbling down the hill pushing the Humpty Dumpty of our ego down the wall.
Now that we have identified the problem, the first step in any solution, let's consider the possible solutions.
"Practice makes a person perfect."
What would we do without these age old sayings eh? Well, we should start by expressing. Expressing a lot. Let fear of being judged and failure not stop the flow of our expressions. If we go by the above saying, I'm sure we are bound to become better. Not everyone is a born orator. Most of them who have succeeded have done so with effort (Winston Churchill was one). By the sheer volume of what we say, we ought to get better over time in expressing ourselves (provided we have learnt).
But what about those who might criticise and judge us? Well I know its easier said than done, but you've to .ignore them. You're in for the long haul remember. So keep going at it and improving. The critics themselves might not have many original ideas apart from being a self proclaimed crusader. And in order to not be a hypocrite, you should also take the the argument to its logical conclusion "Don't judge". Accept people for who they are. We are the product of our environment and our experiences. Don't hold that against anyone.
Live long and prosper.
One meets many people during their brief stay on earth. And we usually have the habit of being fiersome critics on whatever its is possible holding an opinion on. So we judge a lot of people on what we think are their failed attempts at articulation, social behaviour and whatnot. Maybe it's this habit of ours in its corollary that is the cause of this dichotomy. I know its easy to come up with hypotheses. So here's my reasoning.
We spend a lot of time trying to formulate our thoughts that we forget to express it. And when we finally do, we are wary of the same crime we had committed on others, that of being fiersome critics. We do not want to make a failed attempt and be judged, that we seldom make attempts. When we finally do we are so self conscious that we stumble. This is where we fall into the cyclic trap of being conscious. Once we stumble, we become further conscious which leads to further stumbling. So jack goes tumbling down the hill pushing the Humpty Dumpty of our ego down the wall.
Now that we have identified the problem, the first step in any solution, let's consider the possible solutions.
"Practice makes a person perfect."
What would we do without these age old sayings eh? Well, we should start by expressing. Expressing a lot. Let fear of being judged and failure not stop the flow of our expressions. If we go by the above saying, I'm sure we are bound to become better. Not everyone is a born orator. Most of them who have succeeded have done so with effort (Winston Churchill was one). By the sheer volume of what we say, we ought to get better over time in expressing ourselves (provided we have learnt).
But what about those who might criticise and judge us? Well I know its easier said than done, but you've to .ignore them. You're in for the long haul remember. So keep going at it and improving. The critics themselves might not have many original ideas apart from being a self proclaimed crusader. And in order to not be a hypocrite, you should also take the the argument to its logical conclusion "Don't judge". Accept people for who they are. We are the product of our environment and our experiences. Don't hold that against anyone.
Live long and prosper.
